All right, so this is a comment on the debate about love and relationships.

It seems to me, that there have been two distinctive positions made in the last ten years. One is Mr. Andrew Tate, the other is Mr. Jordan Peterson.

Two really good influencers.

My take on it is really inspired by the philosopher Søren Kierkegaard. The Danish international philosopher, two generations back in the tree of Danish philosophers.

He claims that there are three stages in a love life. First stage is seduction (he was an illustrious artiste in his days, a bit like Goethe). At this level we find the needs, that all have. The material realm. Many women are attracted to this level, but they are usually fickle.

Second level is the ethical level. This is about virtues, the Ten Commandments, the Talmud. In a platonic light it’s is the stoic STRIVING for virtue, to build character, or what is most important for a man; his honor.

Third level is the spiritual level. G-d, poetry, unity.

Now the perfect relationship is COMBINING the three levels. If you are at one end, and just attract based on material wealth, the women go on, as soon as they find something richer.

If you are just on the spiritual level she will leave you for being poor.

In other words, it’s the balance between the different levels that is really difficult. A poetic, rich, and ethical man, will never loose a woman.

That is the theory of Kierkegaard, and I think he is right. The BALANCE is the real challenge.

G-d bless the will to find the right balance.