When I got my Bar Mitzvah here in Denmark, my mom gave me a family heirloom.

It is a small gold coin, a lucky coin that my grandmother gave to my great grandmother, as she had to flee from nazi occupation here in Denmark. She boarded a fisher boat and fled to Sweden, where she was rescued and survived the holocaust.

This is a story about resilience but also about BEING REALISTIC. No one wants to leave their homes and travel over a dark sea in the night, avoiding the SS search parties. You only do it, because you HAVE to.

So how can we use this experience with all the other experiences, that Jews have here in Northern Europe?

We can use it, by shedding all pretense of support, pride, telling ourselves that we are the best and all that.

The truth is, that we are sitting on a cliff, and there is an abyss just beside us, that will swallow us, if we are not absolutely careful of our moves. One wrong move, and there is no more Israel, that our great grandfathers and grandmothers bought with their lives and suffering.

That is the truth.

We are, right now, not just gambling with the future of the hostages by wandering around, for over half a year, in one of the most dangerous zones of war in the world in terms of physical as well as political danger.

We are playing with the very existence of Israel.

We have lost so much political capital, that it is astounding, while we are wandering around in Gaza. Political capital is what you use, when you act somewhere.

Say that Israel went to war with Iran right now, with no political capital, that is help from friends around the world. What would happen?

Iran still has plenty of support all around the world?

You guessed it, we would be in a really dangerous situation. If we were opening a front to Iran while as we are bogged down in Gaza. What would that make of our strategic situation.

To be fair, we could win, with an astounding vision, and a real David movement. But to be honest, are we really at our best in terms of strategy and skill? Are we not just at the end of a really dangerous process of falling apart as a society?

I am not advising anything. I am trying to lay out the groundwork. I too support the Iranians and all their plight, it is horrible. But are we really willing to risk the only country in the world, where people like me, my family and all other Jews in the world are actually safe?

We have to be REALISTIC about what we are doing, and then find a way out of the quagmire.

G-d bless the will to find peace in the end of this crisis, we can if we are totally honest to ourselves and look at the risks as they are.